When Quarter Life Crisis Hit You So Hard: Me too...

These days, friends around me, go around "complaining" about life. Well, me too tho.

According to The Boston Globe, the quarter-life crisis occurs in one's twenties, after entering the "real world". Erik H. Erikson, who proposed eight crises that humans face during their development, proposed the existence of a life crisis occurring at this age. The conflict he associated with young adulthood is the Intimacy vs. Isolation crisis. According to him, after establishing a personal identity in adolescence, young adults seek to form intense, usually romantic relationships with other people.
Goldstein, Meredith (September 8, 2004). "The quarter-life crisis" and Erikson, Erik H. (1968). Identity: Youth and Crisis. Taken from Wiki.

Nah, probably that is. Quarter life crisis (QLC).

Most of us currently is 21-23 y.o., we are facing the fact that around September, we will be taking our oath as an official pharmacist (insyaAllah aamiin). And of course, after that, according to mainstream thoughts, have to undergo having a proper job things - finding a perfect spouse - having a house - etc.

No, no, this post will not be about how to overcome the QLC, since, even myself is starting to go into it (I am in early 20 tho!). Maybe yeah, a little about overcoming it.

I repeat, these days, a lot of us are complaining or worrying, what to do after graduation. Some of us has been accepted to a certain job in Pharma Company and a Trainee in Hospital, some married, some declared that they are going to continue their studies, some of us has joined recruitment in some Pharma Companies, some wanted to be Apoteker Murtad (re: taking other path instead of pharmaceutical areas), and ultimately, some of us are still in the middle of nowhere.

But but, have you heard or see that Sudjiwo Tedjo's viral video of "worrying about tomorrow too much is a form of "insult" to Allah"

THAT'S WHAT I WANT TO TALK ABOUT *gak sante*

So, yeah, my point is, entrust everything to Allah only, what we need to do is doing it. It might be not helpful, because a lot of things in this world are un-explainable but explainable #what?

I'm still trying to, but every little turn we make to get back and closer to Allah, we get a huge something in return. Always. Whatever it might be looking like. Always. This post is also a form of self-seeding for those sentences.

additional

The Millennial Generation called us, popularly known to be a lot more self-centered. This probably proven by some of our daily posts in social media. But I still think that it is not entirely true. Because there are still some of my friends thinking about others inside their plan. Such as joining "Nusantara Sehat" and other typical programs. I mean, even if the final goal or deeper meaning behind everyone movement is themselves, it is still a good idea to include other people in the movement. We are -the so called- social creature, cannot deny the need of interact with "other people".

Being less self-centered might lead us somewhere we actually wanted. And by saying less self-centered, I didn't meant it as "it has to be a lot of unknown people", I intend to state that it can also be our closest family too.

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Belakangan ini, temen-temen kampus isinya sambat. Akupun juga gitu sih..
Hm.. mungkin ya.. QLC..
Sebagian besar dari kita-kita, sudah 21-23 tahunan, dan sekarang kita berhadapan sama kenyataan bahwa nanti September (insyaAllah aamiin) akan diambil sumpah sebagai Apoteker. Dan mestinya, setelah itu, kalo ikut standar nasional masa kini, bekerja, menemukan pasangan hidup, bikin rumah, dst.

Bukaan.. tulisan ini gak bermaksud bahas cara mengatasi QLC, tentunya karna aku juga masuk umur-umur 20an. Tapi iya sih, ada sedikit soal menghadapi QLC.

Oke, jadi, sekarang lagi banyak-banyaknya yang sambat/ mengkhawatirkan masa depan, mau ngapain habis lulus nanti. Sebagian ada yang diterima di Industri Farmasi, ada yang magang di Rumah Sakit, ada yang nikah, ada yang sekolah lagi, ada yang sibuk rekrutmen, ada yang pengen jadi Apoteker Murtad alias kelar dari kefarmasian, dan tentunya... kaum yang entah mau apa.

Oiya, udah pernah lihat atau denger video viralnya Mbah Sudjiwo Tedjo soal "mengkhawatirkan hari esok itu menghina Tuhan"?

ITU INTINYA GAES *gak sante*

Ya intinya sih, percayakan segalanya hanya ke Allah, kita hanya harus melakukan apa yang bisa kita lakukan. Agak ribet sih kalimatnya, tapi toh banyak hal di dunia ini yang gak bisa dijelasin tapi bisa dijelasin *lah

Aku sendiri juga sedang berusaha biar bisa kaya gini, karena setiap kali kita kembali, atau menuju ke Allah, kita selalu dapet sesuatu yang gak kita bayangin sebelumnya. Selalu. Bisa apa aja. Selalu. Post ini juga usahaku menanamkan kalimat-kalimat itu ke diriku sendiri sih.

tambahan

Generasi Milinial alias kita kita, terkenal dengan level individualitas yang lebih tinggi. Mungkin juga karena kita selalu jadi aktivis sosmed. Tapi aku gak sepenuhnya setuju dengan pemikiran itu. Karena masih banyak teman-teman yang memikirkan orang lain dalam rencana hidupnya. Misal, ikut program Nusantara Sehat atau semacamnyalah. Ya walaupun tujuan akhirnya tetep mereka sendiri, tapi memasukkan orang lain dalam rencana kita itupun ide yang keren menurutku. Lagipula, sebagai makhluk sosial, kita gak bisa lepas dari butuh interaksi sama orang lain.

Jadi orang yang peduli bisa membawa kita ke tempat yang sebenernya emang kita inginkan. Dan yang aku maksud peduli itu bukan ke banyak orang lain antah berantah, tapi juga keluarga terdekat kita.